What Makes a Good Lover?

61HIE4tsgFL._SX425_Throughout the Metatron’s Army Series, I’ve had to examine romance and romantic relations through a number of lenses.

Aliens, angels/celestial beings, human, common man, physical, emotional, psychological, other.

There are intersecting stories and intersecting motivations as to why various characters seek out relationships that fall under the romance cloud with enough sub-categories that even an analytical mind can appreciate.

No When Harry Met Sally stuff here.  Btw:  I did like that movie – for a break in the day…

What I have to consider when designing match-ups of characters – writing their passion scenes – how good are they as a lover?

We have teenage (and alien) loss of virginity, more experienced, this is – um cool/interesting/yeah, I’m liking life, I’m starving, I’m desperate, I’m broken, I’m in command, and so on

Every character, every match-up, every passion scene, has to take into account the experience and attitude of the individual playing the game.

This is particularly important with different species.

To understand the attitude, you have to go into what is motivating the character to have sex.

You have I’m just happy to be here, I’m humoring you, I’m bored, I’m satisfying a curiosity, I’m …

Out of ideas.  Several years ago, as a writer, I hit a panic place when it came to writing scenes of passion.  Worried that I would bore readers (read bore myself), I worried that I would find myself writing boring sex scenes.

I called a good buddy of mine and told him my concerns.  He laughed – which was exactly what I needed – and proceeded to tell me there are as many ways to have sex as there are people having sex.  It was exactly what I needed to hear.

From then on – though I honestly didn’t get it at “that moment” – I came to see that to write a great sex scene (scene of passion), I needed to get into the minds and hearts of BOTH characters about to get into it.

Every time.

  • Why are they doing it?
  • How much experience do they have?
  • Why are they doing it with  THIS person?
  • What are the conditions?
  • How much time do they have?
  • Other

After looking at it through those variables I realized my bud was right – the possibilities were truly endless.

I hope you’ll enjoy the progression of the characters’ romantic (read passion) lives throughout the entirety of the Metatron’s Army Series, as well as the universes (and the worlds within them) that have yet to come.


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